Today I want to talk about our dark sides. You know what I'm talking about, that side of you that you try to hide, pretend it's not there, don't dare show to other people. Ring any bells? This can run the gamut from hiding a bad habit or a specific part of our personality to repressing a traumatic past or an addiction we're struggling with, maybe ways we've hurt others. Either way, the issue here is that we refuse to put our guard down, allowing others to see us for who we truly are and sometimes, we actually hide these parts of ourselves so well that we don't even see them ourselves.
So, why is this a bad thing? We all hide things from people and show them only the parts that we choose, right? While I think many people do this to some extent, the shame in hiding part of yourself is the message behind it. What you're telling yourself while hiding is that your entire being isn't worthy enough to be accepted or loved by others. The bigger meaning underlying hiding our dark side is the problem here. It ends up leading to shame and a cycle of lying to others and ourselves.